I’ve lived in California for 20 years and have heard about a thousand times motivational and goal setting advice like this:
“You can do it if you just put your mind to it.”
“Yes you can!”
“Set clear goals in your life and they will manifest.”
If you’ve heard it too and tried to use goal setting and will power to achieve your dreams then I would like to ask you to look back and consider how well this worked for you!
We use our will power to loose weight, get rid of back pain, depression or anxiety and often find that it’s not worked that well.
What we are realizing now is that setting goals is important and necessary. But it also requires lots of energy, attention and “will power muscle” to make them happen. We seem to have not enough will-power to achieve our goal, get frustrated and then blame ourselves for not being “good enough”.
And we all know how easy it is to lose our desired goals, by getting side tracked or because we don’t feed it with “energy and attention” … oops!
Establishing habits is way more powerful.
Habits are like the automated tasks our smartphone does without us knowing. It’s being done. Just think of all the wonderful apps helping you to stay in touch with family, read emails (you’ve got mail!) or the latest news article or “fake news” on Facebook. It’s all pretty much automated and we love it and benefit from it.
The same is true for our body. Healthy habits make our body “run” in a productive and high performance kinda way. We don’t have to think at all that we drink water instead of soda, we grab healthy snacks or eat mostly vegetables not because we have set that daily goal and used tons of our will power and energy to do it.
It’s fully automated running in our background (our subconscious mind).
Our breathing, blood flow, digestion, sensory input, brain activity, etc…. the majority of our bodily functions are unconscious “habits” (if that is what we decide to call them).
Symptoms are habits!
Ok. I said it.
This might be a totally new perspective for you. But start to consider symptoms as habits and not as something being wrong with you.
Your symptoms are biological reaction based on…..what you eat, how you react to stress, how you process emotions, how you perceive your environment, your relationships and your connections with others and the universe, presence or God.
Your symptoms are the result of your unconscious habits and when you change that “symptom producing habit” you’ll notice that your body will automatically – sometimes instantaneously sometimes over time – adjust and the symptoms disappear.
In Lifestyle Prescription® Health Coaching we are using the power of habits in a conscious way to transform our body-mind into a well oiled “bio machine” that produces empowering emotions, thoughts and results.
Seth Godin says it perfectly: “Your audacious life goals are fabulous. We’re proud of you for having them. But it’s possible that those goals are designed to distract you from the thing that’s really frightening you — the shift in daily habits that would mean a re-invention of how you see yourself.”
“Habits are powerful, but delicate. They can emerge outside our consciousness or can be deliberately designed. They often occur without our permission but can be reshaped by fiddling with their parts. They shape our lives far more than we realize—they are so strong, in fact, that they cause our brains to cling to them at the exclusion of all else, including common sense.” stats Charles Duhigg.
William James said: “All our life, so far as it has definite form, is but a mass of habits – practical, emotional, and intellectual – systematically organized for our weal or woe, and bearing us irresistibly toward our destiny, whatever the latter may be.”
The big question for you right now is: Do you want to continue to struggle using will power to improve your health and your life?
Or are you ready to use the power of micro-habit change and Lifestyle Prescriptions® to consciously automate your unconscious habits and let your body’s intelligence do the work?
Once you set up healthy habits, they become part of your identity, they can last all your life and require very little or no will power to maintain them.
It’s your choice.
So who’s the winner: Goals or Habits?
I guess there is really no winner, both have their purpose.
But one thing is for sure true: Creating habits in a conscious manner is extremely powerful and will free up your will power and energy and help you automate tasks in your life that you used to struggle with.